My Missionary Position Statement

I like to think the smut I write is in homage to the countless writers who have etched their names in society first through the genre of erotic fiction, many of whom you wouldn't suspect like Fran Lebowitz, Anne Rice, and Roald Dahl. Still, some of my favorites such as Bukowski, Henry Miller, and Anais Nin made careers out of putting their lecherous thoughts to paper.

I’m not necessarily out to write romantic fiction although it is my personal philosophy that any form of intimacy is an execution of some kind of love. I myself, for example, never say I've had a one night stand, I prefer to say, I loved someone for a night.

I liked this notion, that is, until I had an encounter with a man I had a one night stand with--a man who had even begged me to stick around the morning after--but 6 months later had no recollection of who I was or of our sexual interlude. But I guess that was on me, I should have stayed. Instead I ran. (My 20's in a nutshell.)

I’m also not out to write some gratuitously graphic filth, although writing or reading erotica is prurient by its very nature.

My writing is a way to capture humanity—to analyze the way people think and live and feel. I want it to be a snapshot of a moment in time, a window into a stranger's life, and I (perhaps like you) find sexual behavior a fascinating aspect of humanity. Some would argue that it’s at the core of everything. Freud would agree with that. So would Richard Dawkins, author of The Selfish Gene.

Who and what we are attracted to are just the surface, but why we are stimulated by certain things and turned off by others is another question with an endless series of unique answers that involve trauma, personal experiences, and societal influence.

Sexuality is not just about sex. It’s a series of interlaced intricacies of the mind that drive us to ultimately procreate and perpetuate the human race, sure. However, sexuality exists even in the people who don’t procreate. It exists even for those who aren't having it.

Sex is not just a team effort but an individual sport. Knowing your body and what you like is not just important going into a relationship, but it’s important for your physical health, your mental well-being, your confidence…and it’s just plain LIBERATING!

So…while you’re here, in my domain, my dungeon, ensnared in my web of sexual desires and world of kink—think of this as:

A JUDGEMENT-FREE ZONE

Really and truly...that is, of course, under the apprehension that any and all sexual activity is:

1.      1000% consensual

2.      does NOT involve little humans under the age of 18

3.     does NOT involve animals of any kind (unless it's Salma Hayek with a python, I think even PETA is cool with that)

4.     ​AND does NOT involve human excrement 

And listen...I know a rare few of you may take issue with #4 as those are technically legal fetishes--Coprophilia (feces), Emetophilia (vomit), and Urophilia (peepee). I am not in fact kink shaming! In fact, I have no personal issue with pee-fetishes as a heavy percentage of female ejaculate is urine, however my argument against the others is purely from the sanitation/health/safety perspective. 

Men, I don’t feel like you need to be told that this place is safe for you, but I understand that men in society today feel less and less certain of their sexuality as so many other “bad men” have tarnished the image of men in general. I honestly feel for a lot of you “good men”. It’s a Warlock Hunt out there!

Women & nonbinary though, I want you to feel free to ask questions, learn, grow, explore your bodies, stay safe and have fun without shame!

Right now, violence is more prevalent and accepted in media than the image of two people loving each other. Let’s fix that. Let’s start a dialogue. This is what I hoped to achieve with my writing, anyway. From my days as a nomad, a dominatrix and a sexual explorer, I have a lot of knowledge to impart. Let’s remove the stigmas, fears, misapprehensions. Let’s remove whatever self-imposed barriers you’ve put in your way.

You are beautiful & you are worthy of love.

Happy reading!